Superheroes – aren’t they amazing? Despite the travesty that is their life, they seem to not let it bother them (or they get past their inadequacies fairly easy) and look at the bigger picture, be the most selfless person on the planet – except of course for the other superheroes! And despite knockdowns and disbelievers, they save the world and everyone thinks the superhero is simply a legend and they stand in awe of him/her.
Right – that’s one hell of a job description yet so many of us want to aspire to have the accolades and adoration of being a superhero... yet what we don’t really see is the blood, sweat, tears, self-doubt, nay-sayers, bullying and controlled sarcasm that precludes the accolades and adoration: aka the real work. That doesn’t sound as exciting does it!
Becoming a Superhero
To become a superhero you have to still start at the beginning: being a mere human being. What a lot of us end up doing is thinking
“Right, first I have to find me a cape”
Fallen at the first hurdle.
The ‘cape’ is actually of little use at all. It’s merely a status symbol. It is not required at all in the making of becoming a superhero.
So what is required?
Preparation and Groundwork.
I know, I know – it doesn’t sound nearly as exciting as finding your cape! How about we jazz it up a little:
Preparation = gaining your strength so you can fly
Groundwork = the little small deeds of the day that slowly gets you noticed as a superhero
In order to "fly", you will be looking to find the things that come naturally to you and see if they are as strong and robust as they can be:
Can you do an up to date course on something you are naturally strong at?
Is what you are good at being utilised currently in your life?
In what areas could your special powers be used for the greater good? Are you doing any of them at the moment?
Spend time in the preparation – it will make flying much easier later on!
On to getting noticed as a superhero. This requires you to largely be undercover – a lot of superheroes do this. They don’t want to let on to others who they really are and how amazing they are – good to note that your cape shouldn’t, therefore, be too big or cumbersome!
In order to practice this art, it is best that you start with yourself. So consider things like:
Being kind to yourself
Looking at the good you bring to the world
Enjoy the differences you bring to the mix
Seek out unusual and interesting possibilities you can try
Give yourself a hug
Tell yourself you are worth it
The above list isn’t exhaustive, they are just some ideas – practice them and once you feel the effects of it you are ready to fly out there and be these things to others.
Help others see it for themselves too.
Be kind to others
Look at and acknowledge the good that others bring to the world
Enjoy other people’s differences and welcome how they can influence and improve your own world
Find the uniqueness in other people and things
Give care and consideration to others
Tell others that they are so worth it
And just like that – you can look around and see you’re rocking that cape! – You didn’t have to find it, you had it all along.
Whilst I am not talented in fashion accessorising or with flight simulators, I do have expertise in the mindset and how to help you turn it around so that you are less hard on yourself and more motivated towards your dreams and aspirations – even if that is becoming a superhero. So if you are looking for that safe space to work out the right way forward for you, then please get in touch here so we can chat and see if we can work together to make that happen for you.
Disclaimer: I’m not qualified in Superhero Theories and Practices – these opinions are based on my own experiences and in finding my own cape!
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Yvonne has qualifications in Coaching, Positive Psychology, and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and believes in continual personal development. She is currently based in the UK and also has life and work experience in Ireland, New Zealand and Australia. She helps with mindset wellbeing and change which includes significant relocations. She is contactable for client availability, public speaking events and media enquiries here: https://www.ymrcoaching.com/helpful-links