Why you don’t have to tell everyone about your goals, dreams and aspirations
“Ssshhhh! I don’t want to shout out about all the things that go on inside my head; my wishes, my desires, my wants. After all, these things are either private or nobody else’s business.”
Is this you?
Is this why you think people believe you are not daring enough or adventurous enough?
Is it because of this that you wonder whether you have any drive because surely you would want to shout it from the rooftops if you really believed in what you want?
Maybe you are the one person in the whole room that simply mutters under your breath “no, thanks” whilst rolling your eyes as your leader in the meeting gets over-excited and wants everyone to stand proud and shout ‘We can achieve this goal! Yes, we can!’
It’s fine. You’re fine. You’re normal. They’re normal...really!
The person who shouts the loudest isn’t always the one who achieves the most. - Remember that.
If that's true then why is there such a big hiss and a roar about telling the whole world what your main goals are in life?
Well, I believe that the intention, as is often the case, outgrew itself. What started out as telling ‘someone’ about your goals so that they can keep you accountable, quickly got misinterpreted and became telling ‘everyone’ about your goals so that they can all keep reminding you or berating you if you didn’t achieve them.
The latter doesn’t really appeal too much, eh? And the more you think of that scenario, the more you can feel procrastination set in and question whether the goal you stated really sits with your psyche or not… pressure, pressure, pressure.
And here is the thing - not everyone actually needs to tell their goals to someone in order to be held accountable. It’s merely an option.
It is optional
I’ll give you my own example: I am one of the least sporty type people you can know. I’m not one for running around and getting all sweaty and could not run for a bus if my life depended on it. For a long time I had pondered on the idea of starting a running program to get me off my arse (quite frankly!) and to start getting fit. I mulled over this for ages, kinda mentioned it to a couple of close people but warned them that I didn’t need any pushing on the matter. Part of me felt that procrastination was stopping me from simply going for it but then I realised that when I was ready to achieve this goal, I trusted in myself that I would make it happen. So quietly, three weeks ago, I did just that...I started. And when I had done it, I then sent a picture to the couple of people I quietly mentioned it to - stating that I had achieved my goal..which was to get going.
They are not my accountability partners. They are my cheerleaders.
There is a massive difference.
At the end of the day, there are different driving forces for different people. Some may need that person who is literally going to tell them when and how to do things in order to achieve that goal. Others just quietly work on it in the background and brings others into the mix once the achievement is either in motion or attained.
So if you are the quiet achiever, then you are completely normal and you don’t have to shout it from the rafters...just remember to make sure you acknowledge and reward yourself.
Go forth and quietly achieve to your heart's content!
If you are looking for that "quiet" accountability partner and/or cheerleader then get in touch with me here. Let's look at how we can get your idea "going".
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Yvonne has qualifications in Coaching, Positive Psychology, and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and believes in continual personal development. She is currently based in the UK and also has life and work experience in Ireland, New Zealand and Australia. She helps with mindset wellbeing and change which includes significant relocations. She is contactable for client availability, public speaking events and media enquiries here: https://www.ymrcoaching.com/helpful-links